A “sugar baby” is the name for a woman who actively seeks out a sugar daddy to fund their lifestyle—and they like to compare notes. The babies like to see if they’re squeezing all they can out of their benefactor, and if their compensation is equal to their peers. So, naturally, an online community of sugar babies has exploded, where the women talk bags, shoes, trips, and cash, and what the going rate is for providing “services” like acting as arm candy in public or having sεχ behind closed doors.
Seeking Arrangement is a site where “babies” and “daddies” sign up and connect and sort out a business plan.
“It’s an arrangement is where people are direct with one another and stop wasting time,” says the site. “It allows people to immediately define what they need and want in a relationship. Our profiles allow members to effortlessly state their expectations. Successful men and women who know what they want. They’re driven, and enjoy attractive company by their side. Money isn’t an issue, thus they are generous when it comes to supporting a Sugar Baby. Attractive people looking for the finer things in life. They appreciate exotic trips and gifts. Sugar Babies get to experience a luxurious lifestyle, and meet wealthy people on a regular basis.”
Personal Space spoke to one member, a sugar baby named Bianca, who operates as a mistress to men in Manhattan. She says she discovered the sugar baby world after a terrible divorce which left her broke and needing to survive.
“I hadn’t been on my own or supported myself in years. Bills were piling up and my Manhattan rent was steadily draining my finances,” Bianca explains. “I felt a little guilty about it, but my mind continually wandered to the fantasy of having a wealthy man take care of me. All my life I had been raised to be the opposite, a strong independent woman who didn’t need a man. Still, the idea of cashing in on my ‘assets’ and living a life of leisure had a stronger appeal with every passing day. I felt that I deserved an easy lifestyle after what I had gone through in my divorce. I found the world of sugaring like you would find anything in this day and age, I Googled ‘how to find a sugar daddy.’ Several sites instantly popped up that were dedicated solely to the pursuit of these mutually beneficial relationships. I couldn’t believe that I had never discovered the world of sugaring before, or as some call it ‘The Sugar Bowl.’ I was ready to play.”