No one flirts in the same way, and there is no such thing as a “good” way to flirt. There are several different styles you can identify if you are looking closely to the others. You can use this to identify your own flirting style, and to learn what you can do better.
INFJs are naturally skilled at understanding others, and because of this have a natural appeal to others. Although they are likable and alluring individuals, they often feel awkward when it comes to flirting with someone that they have true feelings for. When the INFJ is natural and relaxed they may find that people believe they are flirting with them, when in fact they are just being gracious. If the INFJ finds themselves developing feelings for someone, they may become awkward and feel like they do not know how to flirt. The second they begin to think about their flirting, it might cause them to freeze up and doubt themselves. If the INFJ is natural and doesn’t think about their actions, they will be naturally skilled at flirting. INFJ attempt to take interest in the person that they like and will learn as much about them as possible.
ENFJs are naturally skilled at flirting. ENFJs friendly and outgoing nature can sometimes be seen as intentionally flirting by others, when they are just being generous. They enjoy flattering others and attempting to make people feel good about themselves, this can sometimes be perceived as flirting. They are very social individuals and enjoy light flirting with people, as a way to build them up. They are often bubbly and fun to be around. When an ENFJ seriously likes someone they are not afraid to go for it. They may feel nervous, but often appear much more collected than they realize. They attempt to find ways to show the person that they like how perfect they are, and just how capable of caring for others that they are.
INFPs are often very skilled at flirting online, but can become nervous when body language is brought into the situation. They are pretty good at understanding other people can may become nervous if the sense that the other person is nervous as well. They have a natural way about them that is often appealing and comforting to others. If the INFP is able to relax and be themselves than their sense of humor will be able to shine through. INFPs may find themselves capable of using their sometimes awkward flirting styles in their favor. Their honesty is often a very refreshing quality that they can use to keep people interested. INFPs are not incapable of taking charge, and if they truly like someone they are often willing to take chances.