1. You appreciate and respect the relationship and the person.
We’ve all had relationships in which we have taken things for granted. Respect is a huge component of a healthy relationship. If you don’t respect your partner, you probably aren’t scared of losing him or her. If you don’t care whether you are together or not, you probably shouldn’t be with that person.
2. Being scared of losing someone means they are something worth losing.
A relationship is an investment. You don’t put your money behind something you don’t believe in. If someone had asked me to bet on some of the relationships I’ve had in the past, I would have bet against myself. (Sorry if any of you are reading this and are offended.) If you don’t put effort in, you won’t care if things take a turn for the worst.
3. The same person who scares you also makes you feel fearless.
The feeling of having someone on your team — no matter what — is the coolest feeling in the world. When losing that person is your biggest fear, everything else seems pale in comparison. You have the ability to push past obstacles and go after goals in other parts of your life. When you take fear out of the equation, you can accomplish anything.