If Your Relationship Doesn’t Scare You, You’re Dating The Wrong Person

Enter in the “game changer” I’m dating right now. Let’s call him Fabio*. He appeared at the exact time I had promised myself I would focus only on myself. (Ironic, right? I see what you did there, life. Very funny.)

I will never forget our first date. We went out for a beer and ended up just talking for hours. After I left, I felt giddy for the first time in a long time. We went out a few more times, and every date, I discovered more and more about him.

I began to daydream about a future with him, and I started to “catch the feelings.” This is usually the time in any dating endeavor when I would leave before I got left, but I had a gut feeling Fabio was worth fighting through my fears for.

There were days when I would look at him and almost feel guilty for liking him so much. My urge was to run before I got any deeper, but thankfully, I had some amazing friends who helped talk me through it all. They pushed me out of my comfort zone.

Fast-forward to now: I fall more in love with him every day. But with every step I take, there is a hint of fear. I finally have someone I am afraid to lose. For the first time in my life, I have invested myself emotionally and fully in a relationship.

To be honest, it is absolutely horrifying. I love adventure. I have traveled around Europe by myself, I am a motivational speaker, I run a business and out of accomplishing all of that, none of it has scared me as much as this does. This adventure has made me rethink every relationship I have ever been in. I reflected on some of the things I have noticed and learned since we started dating.

Here are some thoughts on why a little bit of fear is a good thing for relationships:

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