4. If they’ve had an long-running on-again, off-again relationship.
As Richardson puts it, an on-again, off-again relationship “could be a red flag if your partner doesn’t have clarity on why it was on-again, off-again.”
If your S.O. can’t pinpoint the problem, it might mean that they lack closure and there’s a chance they’ll fall back into a relationship with that person. Conversely, if they have a solid sense of where things went wrong, they’re likely coming out of that situation with an ever better sense of what they do or do not want from an S.O.
“If [they] understand why things got complicated and why it wasn’t good for them, it could have actually been a good learning experience for them,” Richardson explains. “If there is no clarity, there could be a danger that the door is open to an on-again.”
If the door still appears to be open, maybe let that one go… You don’t want to stand in the way of a Jelena kind of love, do you?
On the flip side, if your new S.O.’s able to reflect on their past flings — regardless of how many or how few there have been — with a sense of clarity, responsibility, and respect, it’s a solid sign that they’ll make a great partner to you. Congrats on finding a catch, girl!