12. Having Kids
Just like how more men and women don’t want to get married anymore, there’s also a growing cohort that’s choosing not to have kids. They find the same disadvantages associated with marriage to apply with kids as well.
This changing trend has mostly been covered from a woman’s perspective, and a Medium article went through surveys finding that more men than women want kids, and that the number of people without children has doubled since the 1970s. The author points out several reasons that men and women do want to have kids for, starting with social status, a fear of missing out, a fear of loneliness, and also the hope that kids will give happiness and meaning to your life. She points this as a bad place to consider having kids from since it starts from a place of fear, not love.
While more men than women would want kids, there are still guys out there who’d proudly proclaim their decision to be child-free. Just ask this guy on Reddit user,YMK1234 who says:
“I prefer being an uncle, you can give back the kid when it gets too annoying.”
That sounds like a solid plan.
11. Being The Tough Parent And Provider
Even though we went over some reasons guys don’t want to have kids, there’s still going to be a large group of men who do have little ones. With the stereotypical image of male masculinity, most fathers are also expected to act a certain way, whether that’s being the tough parent at home or the provider, by and large.
But nowadays its more common for mom and dad to share parenting responsibilities, with the dad doing tasks usually handled by the mom, and vice versa. In fact, there can also be a complete reversal of roles, something that people are still finding difficult to get accustomed to. Just ask this Reddit userMannings4head:
“I have been a stay-at-home dad since my teenager was an infant. We live in the very conservative and traditional southern US. I’m an older parent, and I think you tend to care less about what others think as you age, so the opinions of others didn’t bother me much. My wife probably got more crap than I did as a mother working a demanding job (surgeon) with very long hours. We were able to trade stories and laugh it off for the most part.”
Whether it’s taking over more parenting responsibilities or going all the way to becoming a stay-at-home-dad, guys are getting over old-school parenting roles for sure.