15 Secret Questions He’s Asking Himself Before He Makes You His Girlfriend

11. “Is This Moving Too Fast?”

The commitment-phobe in every man is going to trigger this question. Is your relationship moving too fast? Is it way too soon for these boyfriend and girlfriend labels? Maybe it is. Maybe you’re reading this list on your way home from you first date. In that case, we invite you to take the above GIF to heart. But maybe it’s not. Maybe you two have been going on dates for a couple of months now and you still have no clue whether or not you’re officially an exclusive couple. It’s driving you crazy! You’re not sure whether you should still be on Tinder. You’re not sure if you should ask him to come over for the holidays. You have no idea what to call him when you run into someone you know on the street. So you stammer and say, “This is my, uh, well, this is my…Joshua.” Nice try.

10. “What Don’t I Know About Her?”

Your guy wants to make sure he knows all of the important things about you before he locks it down. It would be awful to ask you to be his girlfriend and then find out something deal-breaking – like the fact that you’re planning to move across the country next summer. Of course, he’ll learn lots about you once you are his girlfriend. But he wants to know the big things beforehand. That’s the whole point of the dating stage of the relationship – it’s where you learn all about each other. So by now he should know some of the essentials like where you work, what you do for fun and your last name. But he might be scared that you have something hiding in the closet. Do you? Disclose it now before things go too far!

9. “If I Don’t, Will Someone Else?”

If he doesn’t lock it down and make it exclusive, will some other guy come along and steal you? It’s sad to think this way but yes, scarcity is as real in our dating lives as it is in economics. If your guy knows he can take his time being casual with you because there’s no one else in the picture, then he might just do that. But if he knows you’re seeing other guys, swiping away on Tinder and getting hit on at the bar, he’s going to step up his game. He’ll know he needs to act fast to seal the deal with you before someone else can beat him to it. We’re not saying you should play mind games here, but it definitely doesn’t hurt to let your guy know that you are a hot commodity. He shouldn’t expect you to just sit around and wait for him.

8. “Does She Fit In With My Friends?”

Unlike with his family, he doesn’t need his friends to absolutely love you. But he does need to make sure that you can fit in well with them. Basically, he wants to still be able to hang out with his friends so he’s hoping he can still do that with you. No one wants to date someone who makes them give up all of their friends. We hate that person who gets a new partner and goes AWOL on the social group. So your guy wants to make sure that doesn’t happen. Will you let him go out to the bar with his buddies every now and then? And more importantly, will you be down to go too? He wants to make sure you can fit in with his crew, even if they are belching, fist bumping and trying to flirt with the hot bartender.

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