15. “Do I See A Future With Her?”
We like to think that guys aren’t able to look to the future or be sentimental. But it’s not true. A guy who wants to make you his girlfriend is looking forward to doing boyfriend/girlfriend things with you. He wants to open presents with you on Christmas morning. He wants to go on a trip to Mexico with you. He wants to introduce you to the rest of his family. He’s excited about those things! He might not be picking out baby names or planning your wedding, but he is looking forward to the future. And when he thinks about his future, are you in it? He’s not going to waste his time making something official with you if he can’t see you in his future, at least for the next little while.
14. “What’s Going To Change?”
One fear guys have when they ask the girl they’re dating to be their girlfriend is how that will change their relationship. Are you suddenly going to start checking in on him and demanding he spend time with only you? Are you going to force him to stop talking to other women? Are you going to stop shaving your legs or wearing a bra? Men are scared of change. Some guys have to go through the worst case scenario in their mind. They’ve seen their buddies go from fun and outgoing bachelors to totally whipped boyfriends and they don’t want to be next. If you think your guy is struggling with this, assure him that there won’t be any huge chances. And all of the little changes will be for the better. He’ll still get to be his independent self, just with you by his side.
13. “Do I Have The Time To Invest In A Relationship Right Now?”
Does your guy have the time to be your boyfriend? Is he able to commit to texting all day long, phone calls every night and dates every other night? It’s a big commitment! All that girlfriend/boyfriend stuff takes a lot of time, energy and money. Playing the field might take more work up front but you can slack off for a few weeks and it doesn’t matter at all. When you’re single, you don’t have to worry about texting someone, calling them, going on dates, remembering their birthdays, buying gifts or anything like that. You just do you. But being in a relationship does take time. If he likes you enough, he’ll make the time for you, even if he’s super busy with work or other things. If he says he’s too busy, he’s not worth it.
12. “Have We Shared Something Personal?”
Your guy is going to feel a lot more bonded to you if the two of you share something personal. Maybe he told you about his dad who passed away and you two hugged while he cried a little bit. Manly tears, of course. Or maybe you really opened up to each other about your dreams of starting your own business, even though you’ve never shared that with anyone. Those personal connections mean something to your guy, just like they mean something to you too. Sure, you two can be really physically attracted to one another and share lots of laughs on your date. But if you don’t have a serious connection, there’s no point. He’s not just looking for someone to date anymore, he’s looking for a girlfriend. Are you someone who is going to support him and have his back?