At the risk of being called a cold-hearted love hater, I’m going to say some things I believe to be true about love. Love is a chemical cocktail. There are many things more important in a relationship than love. There will be times when you don’t love your partner with everything you have. And no matter how much you love them, there are just some people you shouldn’t be with. I know.
Before you get mad at me, you should know that I’m a total romantic. I eat sappy love poems for breakfast and I still tear up a little when my wife brings me flowers (or pizza), which is still all the time. But I’ve also seen some things and done some things that gave me a much more realistic (and less exciting) view on love. I worked in a women’s shelter as a Domestic Violence Victim Advocate and at Planned Parenthood, as a Family Planning Assistant and Certified Responsible Sεχuality Educator. Working with love and relationships and couples were my life. And every time someone said, “but I love them” as the sole reason why they should be together, my life got a whole lot more complicated. Hear me out, and I think you’ll get on my team. If not, get off my lawn. Just kidding. You’re welcome on my lawn.