10 Times Movies Get Wrong About Love and Marriage

One Conversation Can Solve A Problem

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could talk about a marital issue once, reach a resolution and have that be the end of it? Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Marital issues require extended thought beyond the actual fight. They require making changes to long-term habits, sifting through emotional issues that can date back to childhood and seeking the help of a relationship counselor when necessary.

Relationships Must Last Forever

About half of marriages end in divorce. We often quote that statistic as a sad, depressing portrayal of modern relationships, but in fact, divorce isn’t the worst thing in the world. Yes, it’s difficult and sad, but personal growth sometimes requires us to move on when a relationship is no longer healthy. Happily ever after isn’t the only path to a happy, successful life.

Jealousy Isn’t Healthy

While possessive behavior is obviously not healthy, a little jealousy can do a marriage good, according to Esther Perel, the relationship expert and author of “Mating in Captivity.” She advises that “You can’t desire what you have.” Desire is, of course, the wish to obtain something. A little healthy jealousy, which can only arise when partners maintain active social lives and identities apart from each other, can add a little spark.

“When you and your spouse have been married for a period of time, and your original desire has waned, sometimes a drop of jealousy can remind you that you’re not completely safe,” says Complete Wellbeing. “Jealousy can remind us of the value of what we have.”

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